Intrnet P0rn
11:13 a.m.
I never thought my opinion of it would be as follows, but sure as I sit here typing this I can honestly say I have no problem with my fiance looking at porn on the internet. I have been guilty of looking at it in the past. I guess my feeling is that as long as he's not on the computer every waking, spare minute of the day looking at it, and is still coming to bed with me, still wanting sex with/from me, I don't care if he looks at it. I would rather he look at porn on the internet than be out on the streets looking for hookers or hooking up with other women.
But if he were to be in the basement on the computer all day and night every day and night, that would be another issue. If he couldn't be out with me and our friends without having withdrawl symptoms that would be different. I think an addiction to anything is a serious illness, and it makes me feel sick to my stomach that marriages and families are being broken up because one partner or the other can't get away from porn.
It makes me wonder how they got that way. If my fiance and I hadn't had our problems, could he have developed the addiction? Do these people get pushed into the addiction by spouses/significant others who don't give them the attention they need? Is it like smoking? If you keep doing it you get addicted or can it just take one look and you're hooked? I know I would be more embarrassed to go to a sexacholic meeting than an alcoholic meeting. But I think that's because as a sexaholic, society sees you as a dirty, disgusting pervert. If you drink too much well then you're pittied because of whatever it was that drove you to the drink.
I also think that perhaps this sex addiction thing is under-diagnosed. To some extent we are led to believe that it's normal to want to look at sex and porn. It's fulfilling a basic human need. But there are people whose lives are seriously debilitated because of this problem, this illness. And they need help.
